My turn to rant---houseguests

[pinkie1205]

So my dad brought his friend over last night.  It was late when he got home, actually it was unusually late for him.  He wakes up at about 5am to go to work and he didn't get home until after midnight.  His jeep was here when I got home from school so he was probably at the bar.  That is pretty unusual for a work night.  My dad goes to the bars on the weekends but he usually only goes for the company, and to watch football games.  He only drinks diet coke.

So he walks in at midnight with her.  She's loud anyway but being that she was half drunk or high or both she says, "I can see someone was cleaning the house!" (sarcastically).  My dad says to her, "Missy has been cleaning up for the most part."  She says, "For the most part!!!" (sarcastic again).
It took me everything not to walk out there and punch her in the face.  The only thing that was "messy" was that there was a few dishes in the sink.  We made dinner in the crockpot and the dish was too big to put in the dishwasher.  There was a glass and a plate in the sink with it.  All night all I could think was she hasn't been in my house for almost 6 months because she ran off with some guy that was giving her money for crack.  I KNOW she only came back to my dad because for some reason he's always willing to "help her out".  I know my dad is vulnerable with that part because he always has been.  He has the idea in his head that he can buy his friends and to tell the truth he has been trying to buy her for the past 10 years.  No matter how much EVERYONE pleads with him to stop he won't.  I have no idea why so I don't question it anymore because honestly I don't care. I know my dad paid for her to go to the bar, so why didn't she just say, hey you bought me some drinks, I'll clean up those dishes. 
I'm usually on top of the dishes at least, but I didn't do them last night because I didn't get home from school until 10pm and I had to get up this morning at 7am.  I was a tad bit tired and I wanted to try to sleep.  That didn't happen to almost 4 this morning because she was running around all night in this big clunky shoes and going outside then coming back in and going into the bathroom non stop.

I just figured that if someone helps you out constantly you would help them out in return.  All this woman is...is well a crackhead that uses people to get what she wants.

[NutKitty]

Although I don't blame you for being annoyed/frustrated with her for the other reasons you mentioned, I can't say I'd do someone's dishes just because they bought me a few drinks.  If I helped dirty the dishes, I'll offer. 

[RatAttack59]

Two words - ear plugs.

It's a lousy solution to a problem you shouldn't have to deal with, but you might get a little more sleep anyway.

And that's not a "house guest" - it's a mooch.

[pinkie1205]

Sorry if the woman smokes crack in my kitchen (which she did) and wants to complain about my dishes then she can do them. 

And yes I do know that she is a mooch but being there are so many other things I wanted to call her, at the time houseguest was the only thing that popped into my head.

[RatAttack59]

Oh I agree totally.  The disgust was all for her, not you!

[NutKitty]

Hehe, what I meant was that whether she did the dishes are not aren't really worth stressing over.  The other stuff, totally.

[OldsGal]

Sorry if the woman smokes crack in my kitchen (which she did) and wants to complain about my dishes then she can do them. 

And yes I do know that she is a mooch but being there are so many other things I wanted to call her, at the time houseguest was the only thing that popped into my head.

I'm sorry if a woman smokes crack in my kitchen then I am calling the cops...I don't give a damn who they are or whose friends they are.  Drugs are not allowed in my house, in my car, on my property, anywhere near me.  Just for her having that in the house and you letting her do it the cops can bust you as well.  If she makes drug deals while in your home.  The cops can bust you as well as an accessory to a drug dealer. 

It is a huge deal in the courts right now with all of these girlfriends and daughters and mothers getting locked up because they allowed drug deals to go on in their homes by their friends or loved ones even if they didn't know that is what was going on.  Ignorance is no excuse according to the judges.

Staci

[Mischief Mistress]

My mom was a crachead and she was cuaght with it in her during birth. I'm sure she isn't doing it anymore.  i would call the cops. What if she gets your dad into it you could lose him forever.

[Rattiemama]

I wouldn't call the cops. You would be getting your dad in trouble for something they likely have no way of knowing about. You might want to talk to your dad about it though and say that her using drugs in the house puts you both at significant risk. I sounds like a really crappy situation and this woman sounds like she has major issues. I'm sorry you have to deal with it.

[CinemaGeek]

Terrible situation to be in. You have my sympathy. Personally, I would give dad one warning. If he already knows how you (and apparently everyone else) feels about this woman, it won't come as any suprise to him. Tell him that you tolerate a lot, but one thing you won't tolerate is drugs. Tell him that if you ever see her with drugs in your house again, you WILL call the police. At least then he'll know what'll happen if she brings crack into the house again. I'd say that's fair to him.

[sammimom]

Sorry if the woman smokes crack in my kitchen (which she did) and wants to complain about my dishes then she can do them. 

And yes I do know that she is a mooch but being there are so many other things I wanted to call her, at the time houseguest was the only thing that popped into my head.

I'm sorry if a woman smokes crack in my kitchen then I am calling the cops...I don't give a damn who they are or whose friends they are.  Drugs are not allowed in my house, in my car, on my property, anywhere near me.  Just for her having that in the house and you letting her do it the cops can bust you as well.  If she makes drug deals while in your home.  The cops can bust you as well as an accessory to a drug dealer. 

It is a huge deal in the courts right now with all of these girlfriends and daughters and mothers getting locked up because they allowed drug deals to go on in their homes by their friends or loved ones even if they didn't know that is what was going on.  Ignorance is no excuse according to the judges.

Staci

And depending on where you live, the home could be confiscated.
Margie

[pinkie1205]

Apparently she's starting a halfway decent job tomorrow and she found an apartment, so hopefully she's leaving soon.