Congratulations on your pregnancy, first off.

I'm sorry that you're going through a divorce at such at stressful time in your life.  But it sounds like you're doing the right thing.  Personally, I think it's better to raise a baby as a divorcee than to raise a baby in a marriage where you're not treated right.  Kids pick up on a lot of stuff.  Hopefully one of the things you'll pass on to your child is your strength.

^^^^^^

What Judith said (and then some).  My first husband didn't want a wife either...  part of it was environmental (his family was precisely the same way, all his early relationship modelling came from them of course)... part of it maybe was cultural, part of it was whatever made him the person he was... at any rate.. in nearly 7 years of marriage, he never once told me he loved me out loud, I always felt as though he barely tolerated me honestly...(and our children less so)...  When I found out I was pregnant with our third child, though she was a planned pregnancy (planned on BOTH our parts, I would add)... he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore, but didn't want a divorce...and he would move out, and we would just maintain separate living conditions, still married.  Unfortunately, he passed away in a car accident less than 3 months before Zoe (our youngest child) was born.  I am still working through some of the issues that relationship left me with.... however... my point is... that as unpleasant and life-changing as that period of my life was... I am realising now that if things had not happened the way they did, I never would have had my three really great children, nor would I have gone back to medical school, nor met my second husband and wouldn't be where I am now.

Try to think of it as trial by fire...  I am so sorry to read about peoples' pain... I feel like we get to know one another here...and for the most part it's a very welcoming accepting community.  I feel friendship with so many of you (and 'specially you, DDW... we seem to see eye-to-eye on a lot of stuff)...and I hope that knowing that it's possible to make it through these things and come out on the other side of them changed but stronger, might make it a tiny tiny bit easier on you.

Try to enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible.. and keep in mind that it's OK to consider your own (and your child's) needs especially now.  Get as much emotional support as possible.. try really hard not to stress the (relatively) small stuff... and do what you have to do.

*hugs* (If you need or want to PM me... I'll be more than happy to chat, anytime)...

Annie in Norway

Sorry about the divorce. But hey! You have a new So and a baby on the way!! Some times life just throws ya curve balls to let you know that you are supposed to be in a different place.
Just take care of your self and the lil one. Sounds like the SO is a nice guy helping get stuff ready!! Congrats on the new life.

I'm so sorry you have to go through that! Congrats all the same, though I already knew..lol. I won't be online as much for a while because I have to use AOL to get on and I hate it, but if you need anything please IM me, I'll be on at least once a day!

Oh, I understand!  You want to move on with your new life, but sometimes the old one pops up and makes things (even if it's just for a little bit) so much harder.  Congratulations on your baby!    Always think of yourself first and the rest follows. You can PM if you ever want to chat or trade war stories.

Here is one of the blankets I made.





It's really random, and has a receiving blanket on the back of it, but I think it turned out really cute for if I have a girl! 

I'll have to take pictures of the other 2 soon.



My friend told me if I don't sleep nights while I'm pregnant than my child will be born and be on the same sleep schedule that I am while I'm pregnant... Doesn't make much sence to me... It's not true right?  This is also the one that flips out if I lift more than 10 lbs - but will hand me her 3 year old daughter!

Congrats, good for you for finally letting it out. (I knew already too)  . But you have support here. It's normal to lose sleep at night in the first trimester and sleep alot during the day. I was the queen of naps back then.

I'm glad you're taking it easy right now, stress isn't good for the baby. Please keep us all updated. Take care of yourself too.

PS - That blanket is adorable!

LIC, I know what you man about later on. I am starting to get uncomfortable. I have to find the right position, even if it's on my back, (which you're not supposed to do after 2d tri). But ah well, it's for a good cause.

oh yes, also....babies tend to sleep while we're active, and stir as soon as you try to sleep! so don't listen to your friend..lol. You can't feel it right now I imagine, but later on you'll know exactly what I'm talking about!

So...how did it go? Did you getr to see the little bean? I got to see mine at 7 and 9 weeks, I thought it was odd they did it so early.

LOL, yeah that's always good to know.

Appointments get boring, mine lately have been pee in a cup, weight, BP, fundal height (which doesn't start until later on) and heartbeat. The Dr. says I'm doing GREAT with my weight, I was overweight to begin with and I have only gained 20 lbs so far.

Are you going to find out what it is?I got my anatomy scan at 17 weeks, and we definately wanted to find out.

heh no one asks me if I'm pregnant STILL!   in fact, if I mention it in a casual conversation, they act surprised and say "REALLY?  you're keeping weight down really well" or "you don't look it"..  that's sort of sad since I'm due in September...