Olly has just come back from a friends who looked after him whilst I was on holiday and his Lump has got bigger, he doesnt seem to be in any discomfort, but I am so worried because His lump is growing quite quickly, surgery is not an option because of his age and his breathing. I dont know what to do, will he show if he is any pain? I just dont want him to suffer 

Thanks! Luckily It is in quite a nice place for him (on his shoulder) so He can still get on with things quite well!

He is about 2 years and 2 months, He has mild respitory. And the vet advised us against surgery, Im tempted as It does look easily removed but I dont want to risk ending his life early 

tumours often get big very very quick.  If your boy has respiratory issues then its not worth the chance to have it removed.   He can live a long time with a tumour (esp. one thats situated where it is), a lot of the issue is your own mental state.  Just remember that a rat doesn't think "OMG I am disabled" they just deal and are happy with life overall.  Its you that will be in the mental anguish and thats what the members here are for.  Crying. moaning, worrying and debating.  I have an old old boy who has a massive tumour thru his abdomen but he hasn't said he wants to leave yet.  His eyes are bright, I am managing his discomfort with a low dose of metacam and he still trundles around my apartment happily.  I have to groom him and check for penis plugs twice a day but other than that he is pretty happy.
 

Whereabouts was the tumour on your Boy??

I found mine on my old boy behind his ribcage, so its on his side now.

I think you should take him back to the vet and see what they say.

Sit down with your boy and talk to him.  You'll really know when it's his time by doing this.  It's a hard decision to make- but his whole life has been about you and this final decision needs to be about him.  I've had to let several of my boys go and to this day I'll sometimes have sleepless nights because I miss them so much.  The other night I would have given anything to bury my face in my old boy Dexter's furs and just breath in, to kiss his monkey toes, to squeal- "D!!!" and watch him run to the cage door for me....

That's the sad part of owning a pet, but moreso with a rodent- they don't ever live as long as you want them to and when they leave, they're so weaved into every part of your life, that they take a piece of you when they go. 

I wish you all the strength in this world with this decision.

I'm sorry you're in this situation.  It's so hard to be logical when these guys are so deeply in our hearts.  That's why sometimes it's really necessary to get an objective opinion from the vet.  The doctor may want to try a round of strong medications.  If there's no improvement within several days, then you'll know for sure what the next step is.  Please take him to the vet.   At least you won't feel so helpless.   It may not be time to put him to sleep, but he needs professional help for his breathing.

Sometimes we're so confused that we feel paralyzed and instead of doing something...anything...we do nothing, because we're just not sure.  So I'm gonna just be blunt here.  Olly is suffering.  Get Olly to the doctor. 

Hugs,
Robin

Im so confused Yesterday He was looking sorry for himself and really lifeless  and today he has been normal today and was just runnig round the room like a bubba rat  Im hoping he still has alot of life in him despite his tumour. But he still ocasionally has bad breathing

Yep, they try so hard to hide their illnesses.  It's common to see the roller coaster of sick/healthy.  He still should go to the vet because the "faking it" is going to wear him down quickly. 

Please help my Mum wont listen. She is convinced that he doenst need to go to the vet because apparently "Olly is fine today" But he hasnt been I have read her all of what you said and she still insists on not taking him.  Im so angry

Aww Lauren, I'm sorry your mom is being stubborn.  What about your dad?  Think he could twist her arm for you?   Do you have a pretty good relationship with Olly's vet?  Would he maybe talk to you (or a parent) on the phone and prescribe antibiotics without a visit?

Big smooches to Olly.  I love him to pieces after watching his videos last night.  Had to watch them several times.   

Mom, c'mon now!!    This is "Olly even" we're talking about!!   

Begging from across the ocean,
Robin