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Offline BigBen

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R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« on: July 12, 2018, 06:34:33 PM »
This has been a hard week.  Though it was hardly unexpected, I found Mary dead in her hammock this morning.  She is now in the flower bed with Bartholomew and Peter.

Mary made it to 31 months, which is a record for me, I believe.  She was a Holbrook rat, rescued by Mainely Rat rescue, and had to fight for every scrap of food for her babies.  They estimated that she had at least a couple of litters before being rescued.  She came to me with her daughter, Martha, who was born after the rescue.  Mary was a fighter and a vicious biter when I got her, but she eventually came to understand that she was safe with me.  I put her and Martha in with Bartholomew, because the adoption coordinator thought they might get along, and Mary soon won him over.  Mary and Martha were the only rats Bart ever got along with.  I believe he was touched by their shyness, because he became extremely protective of them.  Whenever Mary was out of the cage, Bart always had to come, too, to make sure she was safe.

Mary never came to be comfortable being handled; she always seemed anxious and wanted to get back into the cage.  She did, however, allow Bartholomew's example to change her perception of me, at least to the point of realizing that she didn't have to defend herself by biting.  It took a bit of patience on my part to get over the irritation of being bitten; learning her story helped a lot.  Although she was never really affectionate with me, she cared about Martha, and she greatly enjoyed cuddling with Bartholomew.  It was my privilege to give her a loving home for the last year of her life, and to ease some of her fear.  I would have loved to get to know her better, but I can at least take comfort in knowing that she realized she was safe at last. :love9:
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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #1 on: July 12, 2018, 07:16:45 PM »
Just realised today is the 12th, not the 13th.  Sorry!
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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #2 on: July 12, 2018, 07:59:50 PM »
So sorry for your loss.

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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #3 on: July 13, 2018, 07:37:27 AM »
I'm so sorry about Mary. It's awful that you've had to experience the loss of so many of your fur babies in such a short time.  It was so good of you to take her in and give her a loving and safe place after such an awful start to her life.  Rest in peace sweet girl
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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #4 on: July 13, 2018, 02:04:25 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear this.

I never know what to say when I read these memorials. Sometimes I feel like I'm too cliche, or that I'm not saying enough or saying too much. But know that I am sorry you have lost another one of your little furries.

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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2018, 06:26:04 PM »
So very sorry. My Mary is also a rescue Mama and former biter.   :heart:
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Re: R.I.P. Mary (11/29/15--7/13/18)
« Reply #6 on: August 27, 2018, 03:09:45 PM »
Thanks, everyone.  It's been a hard couple of months, and the cage is feeling rather empty.  The whole downstairs where Bartholomew, Mary, and Martha lived is empty, now that Martha is upstairs with Matthew and David.  And Matthew's respiratory condition isn't improving, so I'm worried about him. :worry:

@gramma2jaakk  There's really nothing we can say, except to let the mourner know their grief is heard.  At least we can take turns giving comfort, and receiving it, too.  Thanks for being there.  And I don't always respond to your birthday threads, but thanks for keeeping up with them. :heart:
What is a rat?  King-sized love in a pint-sized package.
Rat Code:  6m2f22r !B C? D+ F S-- ocA reC sM a+++ e++++ n